Welcome Parents!

Welcome Parents!

If you have a teenage boy whom you want to see grow into a thriving adult, you’ve come to the right place. Journey to Manhood is an online resource for teenage boys.

The following video outlines the needs teens have for mentorship and initiation through the transition to adulthood:

If you’d like some advice on how to choose a rite of passage program from our founder Carl Kalin and Darcy Ottey, coordinator of Youth Passageways, sign up here and we’ll send you a link.

The Men’s Eagle Council is part of the group of rite-of-passage organizations the film above is about. For nearly ten years we offered a rite of passage to groups of young people in Boulder, CO, but now we have moved online to provide a resource that’s more accessible to larger numbers of young men.

We provide:

The following video from our fundraising campaign tells the story of the Men’s Eagle Council, the beneficial effects our past programs have had on teenage boys, their families, and their communities, and why we created this website:

To learn more about our story and how this site came about, visit our About Us page.

You can also go to How to Use this Site for a more in-depth description of what’s here and how the boys in your life can use it to help them create their identities as adult men.

The Hero’s Journey

Have you had the sense that there’s an answer just beyond your ability to think it? Some insight right on the tip of your mind, but not quite making it to the surface? Something that, if you could just reach it, would make everything else make more sense?

There is, but I can’t tell you what it is.

That answer is the treasure we all seek, and no one can give it to you, but there is a map that can show you how to find it. There’s a map that’s been right in front of you ever since your parents started reading you stories as a child.

That map is the Hero’s Journey.

At least, this is what Joseph Campbell claims in The Hero with a Thousand Faces.

So come with me, take the Journey, and find out for yourself.

It starts right here, right now.

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The Meaning of Life: How to Make One

What does it mean to be a man?

Part 1: It’s a Trick Question

What does it mean to be a man? It’s kind of a trick question.

It’s a trick question because the idea of “manhood” or “masculinity” means two different things, often at the same time. When a person says “manhood is…” they are either saying “most men are…” or “if you are a man, you should be…” Often, they mean both of these at once.

The trick here is that there’s actually no logical relationship between saying that most men are a certain way and saying that you should be that way too just because you’re a man.

I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, “if everybody else jumped off a bridge, would you do it too?” We all know that just because other people do something, that doesn’t mean it will be good for us.

It’s a trick question, but it’s a trick question that we’re expected to answer every day in how we act, how we treat other men, how we treat women, how we speak, what we say and don’t say, what we wear and don’t wear.
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Our Approach

On one side of Odysseus’ ship yawned the vertiginous whirlpool, Charybdis. On the other writhed the six horrible heads of the monster Scylla. His task was to sail between them without losing his ship and crew.

Mythology is rife with images of danger on two sides. What does this symbolize? One lesson we can take from this symbol is to take the middle way between extremes.  Often in life we are presented with choices where in order to emerge with our inner self intact, we must avoid both extremes.

This is the basic approach of this course. Two dangers that beset us from either side in the journey of making sense of the world are dismissiveness and naivete.

On the one hand, there is a temptation to become so critical that we dismiss all new ideas. On the other hand, we might be so accepting of what we’re told that we can be led into folly and disaster.

The approach we take in this Journey to Manhood is to view all ideas both critically and openly. To see all generalizations as tools, and to ask, when is it useful to make this generalization? How can I use this particular map of the world to get myself and others where we need to go?

What do you value and why?

One key making ethical decisions, and discovering who you are is exploring your values.

Values are the inner compass that tells us whether the direction we’re going will get us somewhere we actually want to be.

At the Youth Rites of Passage Summit in Ojai, CA, we had the opportunity to interview rite-of-passage leaders from around the world. We asked them what their message to young people was, and some of them talked about values:

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Ethics: Your Inner Compass

One thing you probably haven’t learned in school is also one of the most basic skills there are: how to figure out what to do.

It turns out, people have had to do this for a long time, and they’ve actually come up with some pretty ingenious ideas. The study of these ideas is called “ethics.”
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