The Hero’s Journey

Have you had the sense that there’s an answer just beyond your ability to think it? Some insight right on the tip of your mind, but not quite making it to the surface? Something that, if you could just reach it, would make everything else make more sense?

There is, but I can’t tell you what it is.

That answer is the treasure we all seek, and no one can give it to you, but there is a map that can show you how to find it. There’s a map that’s been right in front of you ever since your parents started reading you stories as a child.

That map is the Hero’s Journey.

At least, this is what Joseph Campbell claims in The Hero with a Thousand Faces.

So come with me, take the Journey, and find out for yourself.

It starts right here, right now.

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The Meaning of Life: How to Make One

What does it mean to be a man?

Part 1: It’s a Trick Question

What does it mean to be a man? It’s kind of a trick question.

It’s a trick question because the idea of “manhood” or “masculinity” means two different things, often at the same time. When a person says “manhood is…” they are either saying “most men are…” or “if you are a man, you should be…” Often, they mean both of these at once.

The trick here is that there’s actually no logical relationship between saying that most men are a certain way and saying that you should be that way too just because you’re a man.

I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, “if everybody else jumped off a bridge, would you do it too?” We all know that just because other people do something, that doesn’t mean it will be good for us.

It’s a trick question, but it’s a trick question that we’re expected to answer every day in how we act, how we treat other men, how we treat women, how we speak, what we say and don’t say, what we wear and don’t wear.
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What do you value and why?

One key making ethical decisions, and discovering who you are is exploring your values.

Values are the inner compass that tells us whether the direction we’re going will get us somewhere we actually want to be.

At the Youth Rites of Passage Summit in Ojai, CA, we had the opportunity to interview rite-of-passage leaders from around the world. We asked them what their message to young people was, and some of them talked about values:

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Ethics: Your Inner Compass

One thing you probably haven’t learned in school is also one of the most basic skills there are: how to figure out what to do.

It turns out, people have had to do this for a long time, and they’ve actually come up with some pretty ingenious ideas. The study of these ideas is called “ethics.”
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